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Daily Routine: Building Good Habits

Building up a good daily routine is very important. Have you ever noticed how when you do something one day, you tend to repeat it the next day? It is easy to get into the habit of doing something. Our daily routine may contain good and bad habits. The key is to building a routine with many positive habitual actions while trying to reduce negative activities.

Daily Routine

If you start building good habits each day, it becomes easier to repeat those actions over time. Someone who has the habit of waking up daily and exercising will find it easier to do so than someone who does not have that routine. Why not start building good habits into your daily routine? It can improve your life, make you healthier, and more successful in your career. In a previous article I have written about the power of consistently taking action towards achieving your goals. You can not have consistency without building a positive daily habitual routine.

Make a list

Try making a list of all your bad habits and try to replace them with good activities. Perhaps your room is a mess and you never make your bed. Try getting into the habit of making your bed each morning. It will make your room tidier and it’s a good productive activity to start the day. Are you sometimes in a hurry and you skip breakfast? That can become a negative habit as well. Force yourself to eat a solid breakfast each morning, and it will soon become an ingrained habit. There are many unhealthy activities in our daily routine that we can work to change each day. Think about what habits you want to modify and go from there.

Conclusion

If you want to improve your life, you need to build good habits. A daily routine containing positive actions will lead to a more productive and fulfilled life. Take time to critically assess yourself and your behaviors. Which actions in your life are unnecessarily dragging you down and harming your health? Work to improve your habits and you can improve your life.

Thank you for taking the time to read this blog. Have a great day.

©2020 Richard Gillespie

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Passion: Do What You Love To Do

In this blog I will write about the power of really following your passion and doing what you love to do. It seems like an obvious thing but let’s expand this a bit more deeply. This idea was recently brought to my attention by author Gary Vaynerchuk. He talks about the idea that people are not really lazy, they just do not like what they are currently doing in life. In other words, individuals are often not passionate about what they try to do in life, and then wonder why they do not succeed.

Passion

Once you listen to Gary talk about this idea, you understand it, it makes sense. Let me explain how it relates to me. Sometimes I feel really uninspired to make music. I’m not sure why I have this pressure to produce music. At one point, I had a goal to be a successful music producer. If I am not pursuing that goal, it doesn’t necessarily mean that I am lazy. Maybe, deep down, I am just not as passionate about being a music producer as I used to be. That’s okay. Passions can change over time. They say that once you find your true passion it does not feel like work. If making music is starting to feel like work, then maybe it is not my passion.

Finding what you enjoy

If you could make a living and have it not feel at all like work, what would you be doing? Writing, for me, seems like a fairly enjoyable to make an income. For others it might not be their passion. What’s cool about writing is that you can basically do it until the day you die. Even if you are unable to physically type words into a computer, you could record yourself and have it transcribed into written word. In tough times, our thoughts and ideas are often what we are left with. You can almost always find something new to write about. Think about what you love to do that doesn’t feel at all like work, this is your passion.

Conclusion

I am going to keep this blog post very short today to enforce the point of this article. Writing a super long blog post today would feel like work to me, and probably feel like work to you as a reader as well. Keep what you do enjoyable, but don’t overdo it. If you love being a DJ, go for it, but don’t DJ 18 hours a day, you’ll burn out. Everything in moderation.

©2020 Richard Gillespie

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How to Deal With Toxic People

In this blog post I will talk about how to deal with negative or toxic people in your life. Is there someone in your life who almost always seems to bring you down? After you visit with this person you consistently feel miserable and depressed. Is there someone in your life who regularly disagrees with any particular opinion you might have? You try to express your opinion to this person and all they do is disagree with you immediately. You may be dealing with a toxic person. My advice would be to physically and emotionally move yourself away from these kinds of people.

Who they are

There are many terms for these kinds of people. Toxic, negative, bullies, arrogant, narcissistic, condescending, rude, entitled, are just some of the words that are used to describe individuals like this. Generally, they do not really care about how you feel, they just want to be right or feel superior. A person like this often lacks empathy. Rarely do they actually listen to you or really try to understand you. You really do not need to associate with these kinds of people. They can actually harm your mental health.

Constant criticism

Some people will talk to you and then immediately try to criticize things that you are saying without fully understanding what you have said. These are not the kinds of people that you should go to for advice or to run ideas by. Sometimes people are just looking for encouragement when they say something, they don’t always want an immediate opinion back. Imagine a friend tells me they are starting a new business, what is the best thing that I could say? I would argue the best reply should be, “Great, I wish you the best in your new business. Tell me more about it.” I should not offer an immediate criticism of the other person’s business plan unless asked for it.

Imagine this scenario. A person named Jack tells his friend Sharon he is starting a new painting business. Sharon immediately informs Jack that his business is bound to fail since there’s no demand for painters in this area. Even if it is true, that painters are not needed in the area, Sharon does not have enough information yet to make an informed criticism of Jack’s business plan. Also, Jack did not immediately ask for criticism of his new business idea so it was somewhat rude for Sharon to immediately offer her critique. Perhaps Jack is planning on opening his business in a different city with a higher painting demand.

They rarely encourage you

Negative or toxic people will generally try to shoot down any new, creative, or independent idea that you might have. You should not go to these kinds of people if you are trying to do anything even slightly revolutionary. Many people must have said going to the Moon is impossible but it was done. Do not believe naysayers or people who make you feel like your dreams are not important or that your ambitions are mediocre. They are your dreams. Believe in them.

Conclusion

Maybe your goal is to write a great novel, run a marathon, start a family, or record an album, do not let anyone ever tell you that your dream is mediocre or not worth achieving. Your dreams and goals are admirable, whatever they are. The best way to avoid negative or toxic people is to simply get away from them. They have their own issues that they need to face and you do not need to be brought down by them. Life is too short to let these people make yours miserable.

Thank you for reading and have a good day.

©2020 Richard Gillespie